There are so many opinions circulating when it comes to potty training your kids. My mum told me that I was out of nappies at 9 months! 9 Fucking months!. At 9 months, I was just happy to have kept my baby alive and well fed (lets just say I wasn’t too good at looking after my plants). So I put my son Chance on the potty for the first time at 8 months old. A picture says a thousand words:
Yep, that right there is a mortified ‘What the fuck is happening?” face on my baby. They say potty training at a young age is more like training adults to look out for when your kid needs to go, rather than you training them to go to the potty. I’m sure there are a lot of parents (including mine) that are successful getting their kids out of nappies that young, however I wasn’t going to sit there all anxious and wait for a wee (which can happen every 15 mins in a baby) or a poo to arrive so I can catch it. I really do want more out of my life.
So after a few tries, I hung the potty up. I read somewhere that waiting for your child to be able to communicate with you can be more of an effective way to potty train. And also waiting for him to show signs of wanting to potty train would be a good idea. That sign might be baby doing a shit and then taking his nappy off himself and throwing it on the ground. Every. Time. (So much fun for mum and dad!!).
So I actually ditched the potty altogether. My cousin said to just put him straight on the toilet (getting a smaller training seat to put on the toilet so he doesn’t fall in helps too). At 2 years old I put him on the toilet as much as possible. He wasn’t afraid of sitting on the toilet and it made clean up really easy. Nappies were out and Nappy pants were in. These are the 3 brands, that I recommend:
Problem is my son was late to talk and so he was unable to let us know when he needed to go so we were still watching for the poo faces (which is like sweaty fear & shame expressions). Regardless, we had a good go at 2 years old where most of the time we took him for a wee he went, and poos, maybe 50%. We celebrated wee wee and poos with stickers and stamps. YES PEOPLE YOU MUST CELEBRATE/REWARD THAT WEE/POO IN THE TOILET. This makes your child want to go there again.
It’s may now and Chance is 3. He started at pre-primary and I’m really happy to say that he’s in his final stages of potty training. It was so much easier with the support of his school. He went to school with undies on (no nappy) and pretty much shit his pants everyday for a whole week. Poor teachers. But he was wee-ing consistently in the potty or toilet when we took him there. The one day, he just got up and did a wee in the potty on his own. This has been one of the highlights of motherhood so far!. Afterward, he came to me and said “wee wee in the potty”. Yes he did! VICTORY!! And since then he’s been good with the wees.
The poos were a little more difficult. It was like he didn’t really know when he wanted to go until he had already started, and then he would hide or say ‘poo’ with full undies – SO NASTY… But I messed up a little. And so I will tell you guys so you might learn from my mistakes. I got really stroppy with him a few times when he had a poo accident. “Why did you poo in your undies? I told you to poo in the toilet. NO MORE POOS IN YOUR UNDIES” I would snap. And then one day with tears in his eyes, he said to me “I’m sorry”. My 3 year old child was sorry that he let me down. I felt like the worst mum in the world. So now when those accidents happen I try not to show my frustration. I get down to his level and say ‘it’s ok’, clean him up and point out how poos are yucky and need to go in the toilet. I repeat ‘poos are for the toilet, not for your undies’ calmly. And when he goes to the toilet he still gets lots of praise from all of us adults at home.
And there it is peeps. It’s not rocket science to potty train your kid. Consistency is everything. My hot tips are:
- Wait till he starts to show signs of not wanting to be in nappies.
- Wait till he can communicate with you (even one or 2 word sentences).
- Start using the words poo and wee, so that he knows what they are.
- To begin with, put him on the toilet or potty when you take of his nappy before a shower.
- Praise the fuck out of him when he actually goes (stickers, lollies, celebration dance).
- Don’t lose your cool at accidents.
- Invest in nappy-pants.
- Get a small toilet seat to put over your toilet.
- Let him spend time at home (all day) with undies and only wear nappies when going out.
- Keep the potty & toilet accessible (within eyesight if possible).
- With boys and wees, let dad show him how it’s done.
- Buy undies that he actually likes (all of chances have his fave characters – batman, angry birds, pokemon).
- And have faith, that it will get better.
Chance is out of nappies now, except for when he goes to bed. Even with nappy pants on, he gets up to go to the toilet. I’m so proud of his progress and I can’t wait till we can axe the nappies altogether.
If anyone else has any potty training tips to add, please comment below. I would love to hear your experiences.
Good luck with it!